I just noticed…
Yesterday, my mom and I took the metro bus. Right before our stop, a hispanic woman got inside carrying a months old baby while dragging a baby cart and along with her came two more kids, perhaps a 10-year old boy and a 6-year old lass, who probably are siblings and the woman, I assume, is their mother.
The bus was full, even before they got in. My mom and I were sitting at a two-passenger seat parallel to that of the driver’s, and in front of the long bench perpendicular to us. A twenty something caucasian woman sitting in front of us, who looked wasted by her career and, is by the way, wearing thick black socks only–i don’t know if it’s her fashion statement, stood up and picked up a big plastic bag full of textile materials, her portfolio case, and a box with a size of two standard shoe boxes, after putting on her half-opened camouflage-designed sling back (yeah, we also felt a little discomfort from her situation, if only I could help her, kinda reminded me of how I was during my org applications
) to offer the woman her seat since she’ll be getting off at the next stop.
The mother took the seat but the two kids were not seated yet, so the boy went a little to the back of the bus where a seat was available and the girl was standing still. The baby was crying seeing her brother disappear from a claustrophobic crowd of standing people. My mom told them that they could have our seat since we’ll be getting off at the next stop…And the folded cart kept opening, hitting other people, which the woman can’t control so I kept raising it (it was a bit funny if you think about it..:-) )…Well who could if you’re carrying a baby and your daughter’s standing next to you in a crowded bus.
When we got off, my mom told me that things are like that here. Most people bring their kids everywhere they go, everytime they leave the house, and many could not afford sending their kids to daycare centers or hiring a nanny to do the job. Only the wealthy have such privilege. Well, maybe you already know these things.
This made me think of how it is different in the Philippines. I, myself, have been raised with a nanny all my life. My nanny is not married (yet, hehe) and does not have kids. So I am like her only child too, considering that I am already the only child of my biological parents. Even before I was born, my nanny and my mom were already friends. By the time I reached gradeschool, my mom decided to become a housewife so I had two women taking care of me when I was growing up. But we are not rich. Our family belongs to the average Filipino family. And such blessing happens in many households in the Philippines. Many Filipinos have housekeepers at their homes, and the economic status is not a measure of having one. Parents could go to work assured that their kids are safe at home and are being taken cared of.
But in other countries, I guess it has become a type of status symbol. Because in reality, not all people has the similar utmost concern for their neighbors, unlike in the Philippines. Whether, housekeepers and nannies are getting paid or not, it is something that the Filipinos should be thankful for especially in times when we feel like we are the unluckiest nation in the world…
And oh, I love my nanny very much…:-)